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The power to create your dream life

The power to create your dream life

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by: Aya Fubara Eneli, MA, JD

How do you value you? How do you see you? What do you see as possible for yourself? When you think of your future are they optimistic thoughts or are they fraught with the fear of your perceived limitations? Are your choices powered by all that is possible or hindered by all that could go wrong? Do you tend to focus on what you currently lack, or on who you could grow into that would eliminate that lack? James Allen famously said, “As a man thinketh, so is he.”

While I have known of this quote for a significant amount of time, in these days as I get older, it has taken on much more significance to me. As I take an inventory of my life, everything, and I mean everything I am, see, have, own or experienced is directly linked to my thoughts. In other words, if there are areas in my life that bring me great pleasure, they are as a result of my thoughts. Likewise, if there is any lack, pain, dysfunction in my life, that too is directly tied to my thoughts as well.

So, rather than believing I have just been lucky or cursing at my misfortunes, the more helpful question is, “What have I been thinking and how do I ensure that my thoughts are in line with what I claim I want to see in my life?’  Here is a radical thought from Author, Life Coach and TV personality, Iyanla Vanzant, “Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”

Take a moment to examine yourself in light of this statement. Haven’t you always made choice based on what you believe is possible for you? How often have you said, “I can’t do that?” Or, “I am no good at …..” And what happened when you think and say that? You proceed to live up to your own thoughts.

Recently, during one of our family discussions on John Maxwell’s book, Intentional Living, I posed a question to my 8-year-old son as we grappled with the consequences of some poor choices he had been making recently. He had traced his actions back to what he was thinking at the time and so I asked, “Where do your thoughts come from.” We explored a variety of answers and finally we agreed that there is a lot of information always floating around us and our thoughts are those ideas, words and information that we choose to pull out from everything around us and put in our own heads and focus on.

We likened it to having a TV capable of accessing hundreds of channels, but we don’t have to watch every channel, rather, the person with the remote has the power to decide what channel to watch and for how long. That person can reject a channel whenever they so choose. The same is true for you and me. We have the power to choose what ideas we focus on and plant in our minds. We have the power to choose what to believe. Whatever we choose to focus on becomes a force that either attracts or repels people, things and experiences.

James Allen says, “Man is made or unmade by himself. All that a man (and a woman) achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts.” Wow! Again, I ask.  How do you value you? How do you see you? What do you see as possible for yourself? When you think of your future are they optimistic thoughts or are they fraught with the fear of your perceived limitations?

I realize now that I am the only one who has held myself back. Not the circumstances of my birth. Not my gender, hue or ethnicity. Not my level of intelligence or how connected I may or may not be. I, alone, have chosen the thoughts that have brought about all I see in my life today for better or worse. If I want better, I must think better thoughts. As I think, so shall I be. As you think, so shall you be.

Join Aya for a unique Lunch n’ Learn on the topic: Put Your Dream to the Test on April 27, 2016 in Killeen TX. For more information or to book her for your next event, visit www.ayaeneli.com, or e-mail her at info@ayaeneli.com.


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