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The Power of a Father’s Love

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Aya Fubara Eneli, M.A., J.D. AYA ENELI 
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Father’s Day has such great meaning to me and I am so glad that increasingly around the world we are taking the time to acknowledge, celebrate and encourage fathers. In a time where we are daily inundated with acts of hate, what better way to positively impact the world than by expressing our love and appreciation for one another.
I posted a request via social media for people to share their fondest memories of the fathers. Though I cannot use all the stories that were shared, here are a few.
The fondest memory of my dad is how at the age of 91, he continues to call each of his children and tell them his expectation and to remind us to keep God first in everything we do. – Sheila Brooks
Funny, I was just sitting here thinking how growing up I was too busy focusing on how much my dad wasn’t in my life when he actually was, my stepdad was the one who cared for me and loved me no matter what. Both of my dads are gone now and even though my biological dad wasn’t there growing up, he was there when it counted. My fondest moment of my two dads was when they walked me down the aisle on my wedding day four years ago next month. I had my dad start me out, which represented how, without him I would not be. He was my beginning, but my stepdad came and picked up the broken pieces and led me to the finish line, thus my step dad started to walk me down the aisle once I hit the midway point of the aisle. It was such a magical day. – Teresa Baker
My dad was the finest, erudite, resourceful family man I could ever wish for! He was a strong disciplinarian, who settled for nothing less than excellence! I wish he could see me doing voluntarily now those things that he struggled against my childish wish to teach me! Adieu dad, your legacies live on! – Eric Obadjere
My fondest memory of my dad was the day he died. He had a stroke and was breathing his last, clutching my right hand so so tight, then he raised the other hand to gently wipe away my heart-wrenching tears, my heart broke!, I looked into his eyes and saw love and a goodbye.. the closure of that day remains engraved in my heart. – Nneoma Uzoma
My dad used to pick me up from pre-k on his tractor or sometimes on his bicycle. He sat me on the crossbar and rode us home. When I left home and joined the military although letters would cost $20 to mail he still wrote to me as his little Soldier girl. He only has a 3rd grade education but you can’t tell by his demeanor. – Leela Isidore
I made it to the Tennis Regionals as a freshman. The location was 5 hours from our home and due to another athletic commitment, I wasn’t available to leave on the bus with my school. My father rescheduled all his patients, drove me down to regionals and stood by my side for the entire tournament. He’s always there for me. – Madu Eneli
I could go on with the stories that were shared with me. What’s important is that you write yours down and that if you are a father, you give serious thought as to the legacy you want to leave your kids. “A father’s love contributes as much — and sometimes more — to a child’s development as does a mother’s love. That is one of many findings in a new large-scale analysis of research about the power of parental rejection and acceptance in shaping our personalities as children and into adulthood.” Your children need you.
The patriarchs in the Bible understood the power of a father’s presence, love and blessing. Time and again, we see fathers taking the time to speak blessings over their children and it is a powerful way to impact your child forever. I have had the pleasure and honor of being repeatedly blessed by my father. I am grateful that he prays over and hopes nothing but the best over
I recognize that Father’s Day is a particularly painful day for many people who have not enjoyed the presence and love of their father and may even have been abused by the one who should have been their protector (and for mothers who’ve watched the anguish it causes their children). The tendency is to curse these men, but I will proffer that even while acknowledging the pain from and shortcomings of our missing or uninvolved fathers, we will do more good for them and ourselves if we offered them forgiveness, blessings and love instead. There are environmental, psychological and certainly spiritual forces that have impacted how men parent or not and particularly as we raise up the next generation, our focus needs to be on healing and setting a new way of being.
For all the fathers out there giving the best that they have. I speak blessings over you. For all the fathers shirking their responsibilities, for whatever reasons, may you find peace and healing. Happy Father’s Day!
Aya Fubara Eneli is the CEO of Aya Eneli International, a best-selling author and a sought after speaker. She, her husband and their five children reside in Central Texas. Follow her on Twitter @ayaeneli, like her at facebook.com/ayaeneli or email her at info@ayaeneli.com.

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