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My first Father’s Day

My first Father’s Day

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Jonathan Oliver

F: faithful, forgiving
A: admiring, attentive
T: true, trustworthy
H: honoring, heroic
E: encouraging, enduring
R: responsible, respected

You embody all these attributes and more. Journey is so very blessed to have you as a father. Regardless of the sins of our fathers, you have stepped up and exemplified what it means to be a man, husband, and father.

Be on your guard; Stand firm in the faith; Be courageous; Be strong- 1 Corinthians 16:13

That is the message I received in my first Father’s Day card from my wife and almost 9 month old daughter Journey. Reading this card was so humbling. The reason being is one of my character defects is that I am a perfectionist, and to make things even worse, I want things done on my terms. There have been many times in this first year being a father that I have felt like I wasn’t good enough or doing enough. I have even judged myself in being a stay-at-home dad at times feeling like I need to do more and be bigger and be better because society thinks this isn’t a man’s role. I’ve even had family members tell me that I need to get a real job. So when I reached down to pick Journey up from her crib on Father’s Day morning I whispered to her that having her puts me in an entirely new status with a completely new title. I told her thank you for blessing me to become your father. God made me for this role.
It just so happened that during this past week I’ve had my thirteen year old niece and two eleven year old twin nephews in town. It has been camp Oliver for sure with 3 kids, an 8 month old, two dogs, and a cat. This caused my wife and I to laugh out loud when she took me to a nice steakhouse brunch for Father’s Day and the manager gave us a free round of mimosas. I think he thought poor woman with four kids having to deal with this guy on Father’s Day; hopefully this will liven up their day.
I did find it a little uncomfortable to hear strangers and receive phone calls, as well as text messages from family and friends wishing me a happy Father’s Day. A small part of me felt like there was more I needed to do, like I hadn’t earned it enough. Then I remembered some wisdom that one of my mentors gave me over twelve years ago. He simply said when someone says something nice to you the best response you can give them in return is thank you. As the day came to a close I looked at a picture that my wife put up on Facebook of our little family. The three of us look radiant as if we were truly reflecting the goodness of God in our lives. It felt weird looking at this beautiful picture because I just couldn’t believe that this was actually my family. I was once again filled with humility. All I could say over and over again was thank you Jesus for my family. My wife showered me with gifts and love. My daughter covered me with kisses and love. My niece and nephews spoke with kind words. I couldn’t ask or pray for a better day. It was beautiful.
Jonathan Oliver is an experienced motivational speaker, life coach, and author. He is the CEO of his company Higher Enlightenment which strives to create a world of truth, love, and faith. He was born and raised in Texas and now lives with his wife and their first child Journey in Owasso, OK. He is a first time stay at home dad. His contact information is on www.higherenlightenment.com and follow him on facebook at www.facebook.com/joyofjojo

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