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My decision to part ways

My decision to part ways

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by: Aya Fubara Eneli, MA. JD

Sitting across from me with his wife, he began to tell me his story of promise, alcoholism and the struggle to sobriety. In that moment, I could no longer rationalize my involvement, I made the decision to part ways with alcohol and over 5 years later, I have not looked back.

My earliest recollection about alcohol was it being used as a remedy for every ailment known to humankind. I saw alcohol used to address an upset stomach. It was used as a painkiller, an antiseptic and more. I intensely disliked the smell of beer and hard liquor, but I would soon discover my love for wine.

At age 9, I went on vacation with my parents to Italy. Rome had a hard water problem and it was pretty common place to drink wine with just about every meal and even kids partook of this tradition. It was then that I tasted my first glass of wine and I liked it.

As a college student, I would often enjoy a glass of wine during special events at home. I also tried wine coolers and mixed drinks like strawberry daiquiris. After I got married, my husband and I would enjoy a glass of wine on many evenings. Drinking wine seemed to be the sophisticated thing to do.

One morning, my then 7-year-old daughter saw the remnant of wine in the glass by my bedside and asked if she could have some. I quickly grabbed the glass and said, “No, it’s not good for you. Perplexed, she asked, “Why is it good for you and bad for me?” Her question hit me hard. I don’t recall my answer. But, I do remember promising myself that she would never see me drinking alcohol again.

Sitting in that restaurant, I decided it wasn’t just enough for my daughter not to see me drinking alcohol, I decided to give up all alcohol completely.

As I look around our community, alcohol consumption seems more commonplace than ever. The liquor industry invests over $2 billion annually in alcohol advertising. Americans spend over $90 billion on alcohol each year.

TV shows and movies frequently show their actors imbibing alcohol. Soccer moms are posting about wine and art parties, young adults and middle-aged folk alike are competing at games featuring alcohol. In other words, celebrating alcohol and elevating its status in our everyday lives has become quite their events the norm.

How are all these behaviors affecting us? In 2014, 9,967 people died in drunk driving crashes – one in every 53 minutes – and 290,000 were injured in drunk driving crashes. According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, 16.3 million adults had an Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD) in 2014.  About 1.5 million adults received treatment for an AUD at a specialized facility in 2014. Amongst youth ages 12-17 years, in 2014, an estimated 679,000 adolescents had an AUD.

How is all of this alcohol consumption affecting our health and quality of life? Alcohol contributes to over 200 diseases and injury-related health conditions, most notably alcohol dependence, liver cirrhosis, cancers, and injuries.

Globally, alcohol misuse is the fifth leading risk factor for premature death and disability; among people between the ages of 15 and 49, it is the first.  In the age group 20–39 years, approximately 25 percent of the total deaths are alcohol attributable.

In the United States, the latest figures which are from 2013, indicate that of the 72,559 liver disease deaths among individuals aged 12 and older, 45.8 percent involved alcohol. Among all cirrhosis deaths in 2011, 48 percent were alcohol related.

In 2009, alcohol-related liver disease was the primary cause of almost 1 in 3 liver transplants in the United States. Drinking alcohol increases the risk of cancers of the mouth, esophagus, pharynx, larynx, liver, and breast.

I know many of you will tout the reported health benefits of alcohol consumption. You may point to the millions who are able to “control” their liquor. Nonetheless, these statistics are still worth considering. I have yet to meet an alcoholic who intended to become alcohol dependent. I have yet to meet a person whose regret was that they didn’t drink more. On the other hand, I have looked into the eyes of a mother grieving the senseless death of her 17-year-old son after he was hit and killed by a drunk driver. I have coached adults still devastated by the toil a parent’s alcoholism had on their family. I parted ways with alcohol because its cons outweighed the benefits for me. Make an informed choice for yourself.

Aya Fubara Eneli is a best-selling author, Christian Life Coach, Motivational Speaker and Attorney. Join Aya for a unique MasterMind Group online for women on the subject, As a Woman Thinketh. For more information, visit, follow her on twitter @ayaeneli or e-mail her at



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