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I’m no role model

I’m no role model

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Jonathan Oliver

I remember growing up watching a series of commercials with the NBA Hall of Famer Charles Barkley talking about why it wasn’t his job to be a role model for other people’s children. I was so young that I didn’t understand why parents were getting so upset with Sir Charles Barkley. I heard many parents discussing why it was wrong for Charles Barkley to have the attitude that he did. When I became older and began to experience life a little bit more for myself I sort of understood the parents perspective. It was the fact that Charles Barkley had a platform which was the NBA and the media. Therefore he could impact children’s lives by being a positive role model. However, after now having my own child, I understand his perspective a lot better and his original point of view makes more sense to me. Being a role model to children, specifically being a role model to Journey starts from home first; not the community, celebrities, or athletes.
After seeing our doctor for Journey’s 9 month check up, she gave me a handout to take home with me. While reading over the handout, I reached the section entitled “Your baby and family”. One of the bullet points said “do things the way you want your baby to do them-you are your babies role model.” I have already noticing that whatever I am doing, Journey wants to do the same thing. I have also noticed there are two things that I have in my hand most of the time. One is my cell phone and the other is the remote control. So it’s not a surprise that most of the time Journey is either reaching for my cell phone or the remote control. It’s not that she knows what they are and what they do, but it’s more that she is saying “if this thing requires so much attention from my dad then I want to check it out and see what it is myself.”
There are some fun games and activities that I can model for Journey. For example, when I am cooking in the kitchen I can give her a small measuring cup to play with and help her feel as if she is helping daddy cook. When I am using fruits and vegetables I can show them to her and let her touch them while explaining to her what they are and how they can be used. Also, when I am communicating with my bride, I can be an example of showing her a healthy way to communicate. It always makes me smile when I give my spouse a long hug and a kiss to look back over my shoulder and see Journey smiling at the both of us.
The important area of Journey’s life that I can influence by being a good role model is being obedient, having a God fearing relationship with Jesus, and honoring my wife by the way that I love her and show her respect. I won’t do this perfectly but I’d rather place the challenge in my hands then leave it up to society. Yes it takes a village, but the buck starts here.
Jonathan Oliver is an experienced motivational speaker, life coach, and author. He is the CEO of his company Higher Enlightenment which strives to create a world of truth, love, and faith. He was born and raised in Texas and now lives with his wife and their first child Journey in Owasso, OK. He is a first time stay at home dad. His contact information is on and follow him on facebook at


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