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Dealing with Scar Tissue

Dealing with Scar Tissue

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by Aya Fubara Eneli, M.A., J.D. AYA ENELI INTERNATIONAL

Scar tissue on my mind. Yes, scar tissue. Scar tissue replaces normal skin tissue after the skin is damaged. Though scar tissue is made up of the same substance as undamaged skin, it looks different because of the way the fibers in the tissue are arranged. Though there are ways to minimize the appearance of scars, there is no way to remove them entirely.

I was a tomboy and an athlete growing up and as you can imagine, I have my fair share of scars. Recently, as I observed some of the various scars on my body, particularly a new one that was turning into an ugly keloid and has a tendency to itch, I looked up and saw a woman wiping away tears as a male exited the car and slammed the door. She looked heart-broken and in that moment I wondered how her heart would heal.

Bodily scars can be seen and there any variety of topical gels and medication that can be used to aid in the healing process, but how about those scars that occur on the inside? How about those scars to the mind, heart, spirit and soul? Years ago, the great songstress, Whitney Houston, sang a song titled Where Do Broken Hearts Go?

If you live long enough people will say and do or neglect to say and do things that will hurt you and may cause trauma that eventually become scars on your heart. Daily, we are inundated with stories of children abandoned by a parent, kids physically, sexually and emotionally abused, women in abusive relationships. Social Media and the tabloids are awash with the pain of the scorned, the deceived and the heartbroken.

How do they heal? How do you heal? Do you have heart scars? How do the scars look and feel if they keep getting cut open in the same place? Does the scar tissue build up? What impact does this scar tissue have on the person’s psyche, on their life? Do you tend to notice that you are a little more sensitive in areas where you’ve previously been hurt? An injured knee can heal, but is still more susceptible to re-injury or arthritis. How about the heart?

“The latest scientific research tells us that the nerves in scar tissue can conduct pain up to 1,000 times more effectively than the same nerves in normal tissue. WOW!” If that’s true for the body, does that stand true for the heart? That may explain why hurt people are supposedly “so sensitive.”

We shouldn’t live in a bubble just to protect ourselves from hurt and the daily traumas of life. And yet at the same time it doesn’t make sense to just expose yourself and absorb all the damage that the world so freely gives out on a daily basis. So, what’s the solution?

The solution just like a soldier heading into what may a battlefield s to develop a mindset and habits that minimize your exposure. For instance, start working on building up your self-esteem. If you are confident in who you are and a person calls you a derogatory name, the name-calling may annoy you, but shouldn’t cause you to jump off the deep end because your self-esteem works as a shield against such barbs.

As usual, the Bible comes through for us with more specifics on how to protect yourself. Guard your heart by putting on the full armor of Christ every day, every moment. The armor protects your minds by monitoring your thoughts, a breastplate, a belt of truth and shoes and a shield of faith. Read Ephesians 6:10-18 for more on your protective gear.

Do not even walk around your home without protecting yourself, let alone answer the phone, check social media or walk out the door. Put on the armor, the whole armor and minimize the damage you may receive. Scarred hearts feel more pain. For most, the more pain we feel, the more we hurt others. So guard your heart. Say no to scar tissue.

Aya Fubara Eneli is the CEO of Aya Eneli International, a best-selling author and a sought after speaker. She, her husband and their five children reside in Central Texas. Follow her on Twitter @ayaeneli, like her at facebook.com/ayaeneli or email her at info@ayaeneli.com.

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